A clinical psychologist has highlighted how political distancing, particularly among liberals, can contribute to higher rates of anxiety and loneliness. The psychologist refers to the ‘Five Ds’ as defriending, declining to date, disinviting, decreasing contact, and dropping someone over political differences. These behaviors, often framed as moral stands, can degrade the relationships essential for emotional well-being. Recent studies and personal observations have shown that liberals, especially young ones, are reporting worse mental health compared to their conservative peers.
Statistics like those from Nate Silver’s Substack have pointed to this disparity. The psychologist, in her upcoming book ‘Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly’, notes the striking pattern of the ‘Five Ds’. The article references the former Obama speechwriter’s admission of shunning his conservative family as a mistake, illustrating the real-world impact of these behaviors. The surgeon general has declared loneliness a public health crisis, linking it to depression, anxiety and physical health problems.
The psychologist argues that the habitual use of the ‘Five Ds’ can lead to isolation and a vulnerability to mental health issues. The article also notes that the phrase ‘words are violence’ may feel righteous, but it leads to anxiety and isolation. The piece emphasizes the need for a mindset shift, moving away from viewing disagreement as danger. It suggests that conservatives may be faring better due to their willingness to maintain bonds despite differences. The solution is to resist the reflex to cut and run, advocating for dialogue over ideological purges.
By rethinking the social costs of ideological purity, individuals can work towards feeling less anxious, less isolated, and more connected. The Five Ds may feel righteous in the moment, but the long-term cost to mental health could be significant. The psychologist concludes that mental health and free speech are more connected than people realize, underscoring the importance of maintaining relationships even in the face of serious disagreement.